Minding our own Business

Civilization depends on, and civility often requires, the willingness to say, 'What you are doing is none of my business' and 'What I am doing is none of your business
Civilisation reached  all  time  low when  few  parents in  Bangalore Misused RTI to  lay their  hands on  the Secondary School Leaving Certificate (Class 10th) answer scripts of their kid's classmates. Karnataka school board, which conducts the exam for over eight lakh students every year, is in a fix. Following a spike in such applications, it has written to the Karnataka government seeking its permission to exempt processing of answer sheets under RTI.
Instead  of  worrying about  their  sibling performance they  are more : concerned “ about their  kid’s class mate  performance!! a healthy involvement in our children's life is necessary, obsessively tracking classmates' marks is downright paranoid & none  of  their  business.
Why  we always compare  with  others ?why  we  are unnecessary worried about  others progress? we  are  seldom  bothered  about  our  own  business  but  more  concerned  on what  others  are  upto 
There  is  a beautiful story  in  ZEN where  a person  was  bothered  about enlightenment of  trees  and  grasses more  then  his  enlightenment !
During the Kamakura period, Shinkan studied Tendai [  school of  thought]six years and then studied Zen for seven years; then he went to China and contemplated Zen for thirteen years more. When he returned to Japan many desired to interview him and asked obscure questions. But when Shinkan received visitors, which was infrequently, he seldom answered their questions.
One day sixty-year-old student of enlightenment said to Shinkan: "I have studied the Tendai school of thought since I was a little boy, but one thing in it I cannot understand. Tendai claims that even the grass and trees will become enlightened. To me this seems very strange, and  I  am  thinking  on  this from  last  30  years "
"Of what use is it to discuss how grass and trees become enlightened?" asked Shinkan. "The question is how you yourself can become so. Did you even consider that?"
"I never thought of it that way," marveled the old man.
"Then go home and think it over," finished Shinkan.
This  old  man  was  more  concerned about  trees  & grass attaining enlightenment or  Nirvana. .We  are  also like this old  man bothering  about  other s business  as popular Kannada  saying  goes :we  are  worried  about Rat  which  is  dead  in  neighbors  house but conveniently ignoring Dead  donkey  in  our  own  house :We  need  to  get out  of  this trap " Minding  our  own  business should  be  our  Mantra
study must show that minding your own business is good for your health. I don’t know if there is scientific evidence to back up this theory of mine, but I’m sure at one point there was a study conducted about this. There are studies done about everything. Through an unrelated series of events, it has become clear that minding your own business is a healthy habit. I have great personal evidence to back this up..
Minding your own business reduces stress in your life. If you spend time meddling in other peoples’ affairs you are bound to hear bits of information that will add stress to your body. You may find out that a colleague of yours, whom you happen to adore, is getting fired. You might be gossiping about someone and they overhear what you have to say. You could think you know what’s going on in a situation but actually have no clue about what is really happening. All of these situations lead to added stress. Stress is a killer. It raises blood pressure and causes an array of health issues from heart attacks to strokes. This is scientifically proven
Another reason why minding your own business is good for your health is that it keeps you focused on your job. If you are so busy wondering what everyone is doing and trying to gossip and meddle in others’ affairs, you are bound to be slacking at work. This could lead to you getting fired  or  other  complication  in  work 
Any how  here  are  few tips for people like  you and  me who want to  give it  a  try to Mind your[our] own  Business ,

✔ When you have the urge to poke your nose in someone Else's affair, ask yourself certain questions like, "Why should I know the development?" or "How does it concern me?". If it is something related to you, then you can give it a thought, but if it is plain gossip, then the answer you should get from within is - "it shouldn't concern you at all".

✔ Another way to stop yourself from butting in is, move away from that place or those people. It's a good distraction to walk away or else you'll simply end up annoying someone. But yes, if it does relate to you, then you might have to break in and ask a question or two.

✔ Show disinterest in gossip and less interest in people around. Rather, focus on the work you have come for. How in the world is gossip or being curious and inquiring about others' matters, or giving your advice when not asked for, going to be of any help to you? Instead, focus your positive energies on yourself, and not wasting your energy on unconcerned stuff.

✔ Before asking personal questions to an affected person (who must be wanting to be left alone), turn the tables and see how it feels. What if some day you are going through a turmoil in life and someone comes up to you with curious queries? Now, how would that feel? Won't it get on your nerves? Won't you want to lunge at the person and punch him/her hard? So, the point here is, think before you act.

✔ If you accidentally overhear some stuff that doesn't concern you, don't spread it around. It might be fun news for others, but you might be hurting someone. Act oblivious to some incidents or as if nothing was overheard and get back to your work.
Our business in life is not to get ahead of others, but to get ahead of ourselves -- to break our own records, to outstrip our yesterday by our today.