Few years back my wife started Dieting and desperately wanted to loose weight. Desperate to know if it’s working, she asked a me & my Daughter if she had lost any weight. Not dare enough to hurt her feelings promptly said, “Yes Dear , in fact, I didn’t ask earlier as I thought you would mistake me ” she was happy . I, on the other hand, kept quiet because I am one of those blessed (read cursed) people who cannot lie convincingly. Poor wife wanted to know everyone’s comment on her newly trimmed (in her opinion) self and turned her eyes on my. Daughter she promptly replied, “um ... I don’t know ... I guess you have lost some weight but ... ah ... not much I guess … wouldn’t know ... I think you haven’t….
Needless to say my wife was not happy with her answer and my poor Daughter had to endure a long lecture from me on her lack of social graces. She was too small to tell a lie
I Still remember story in my childhood on Emperor new cloths where Emporer
Was taken for a royal ride by imposters and went about in town with just Pajama
In a procession and finally his party ended when one child from the crowd
Shouted that Emporer was without proper cloths!!! Child does not have any inhibition to tell truth just like my daughter bluttered to truth on her Mothers face
Without realizing the consequence as she believed “The naked truth is always better than the best dressed lie” may be !!
As we move on in life we tend to filter the truth to our advantage based on the situation and circumstances
Coming back to the lie in our Adult world there are different types of lies and also comes in many shapes and guises.
, from the classic little white ones to the colossal desecration of truth we all endure at the hands of politicians (remember VP Singh pledge of election that he would book the culprit on Bofers within 90 days). There are lies based on kindness — on wanting to spare someone else’s feelings[Rembember what I told to my wife!!], and other lies, less noble, based on wanting to spare one’s own feelings. Then, there are lies one tells oneself to justify bad decisions or bad behavior; there are manipulative lies told to gain unfair advantage and lies told under oath about which a certain Mr Clinton knows of.
, from the classic little white ones to the colossal desecration of truth we all endure at the hands of politicians (remember VP Singh pledge of election that he would book the culprit on Bofers within 90 days). There are lies based on kindness — on wanting to spare someone else’s feelings[Rembember what I told to my wife!!], and other lies, less noble, based on wanting to spare one’s own feelings. Then, there are lies one tells oneself to justify bad decisions or bad behavior; there are manipulative lies told to gain unfair advantage and lies told under oath about which a certain Mr Clinton knows of.
Or for that matter the justification lie told by own blue boys in karanataka recently
Just as there are various types of lies, there are different attitudes towards lying. Some people take great pride in lying well, while the puritanical types run a mile if asked to lie. According to Samuel Butler, “any fool can tell the truth, but it require men of some sense to lie well.” Contrary to that, Immanuel Kant considered lying “the greatest violation of man’s duty to himself.” Machiavelli endorsed lying for utility and reasons of state
Just as there are various types of lies, there are different attitudes towards lying. Some people take great pride in lying well, while the puritanical types run a mile if asked to lie. According to Samuel Butler, “any fool can tell the truth, but it require men of some sense to lie well.” Contrary to that, Immanuel Kant considered lying “the greatest violation of man’s duty to himself.” Machiavelli endorsed lying for utility and reasons of state
Even during Mahabharatha our own yudistra”s lie was justified by Lord krishna himself !.
But whatever these intellectuals say about lying they can’t beat our film actresses when it comes to the legendary art of lying. Some where I read , “One should never trust a woman who tells one her real age. A woman who would tell one that would tell one everything.” He didn’t know that a lot of our actresses would take it so literally. I distinctly remember watching Shilpa shetty debut film during early part of Her Entry . Now, I am working for quite a while almost 22 years and the superstar is yet to celebrate her 32nd th birthday that is they say . Women lie about their age; men lie about their income
There is an argument that puts all the blame on biology, that deception is part of human nature — a necessary tool in the human survival kit — hence justifiable. The other view says that we are not born with this capacity to lie and we develop it as we grow up. Toddlers do not know how to lie. If you ask them about something naughty, they will immediately own up.
We all lie, for expediency, by choice, by accident or by default. There is no one who can claim to have never lied but almost no one likes being lied to. When we discover we’ve been deceived by someone we’d trusted, the falsehood opens a gap between two people.
Finally if you lie it will part of the future as you need to justify but if you tell truth it becomes part of history , present and future !1
But whatever these intellectuals say about lying they can’t beat our film actresses when it comes to the legendary art of lying. Some where I read , “One should never trust a woman who tells one her real age. A woman who would tell one that would tell one everything.” He didn’t know that a lot of our actresses would take it so literally. I distinctly remember watching Shilpa shetty debut film during early part of Her Entry . Now, I am working for quite a while almost 22 years and the superstar is yet to celebrate her 32nd th birthday that is they say . Women lie about their age; men lie about their income
There is an argument that puts all the blame on biology, that deception is part of human nature — a necessary tool in the human survival kit — hence justifiable. The other view says that we are not born with this capacity to lie and we develop it as we grow up. Toddlers do not know how to lie. If you ask them about something naughty, they will immediately own up.
We all lie, for expediency, by choice, by accident or by default. There is no one who can claim to have never lied but almost no one likes being lied to. When we discover we’ve been deceived by someone we’d trusted, the falsehood opens a gap between two people.
Finally if you lie it will part of the future as you need to justify but if you tell truth it becomes part of history , present and future !1
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