Expressing
happiness over his name being cleared in the Bofors payoff scam, mega-star
Amitabh Bachchan, however, said that he is 'pained' that it came after 25
years.
‘’No
one shall be able to understand or even remotely fathom, the hours and days and
months and years of the anguish of petulant blame that I had to go through. But
will it really interest another? No it shall not," he wrote.
False
implication , character assassination ,false
accusation give whatever name But
only the sufferer knows the feeling behind this It can be a frightening,
humiliating and annoying experience when you discover that you are a victim of
false accusations and we can
well imagine how he
might have felt all
these years
Why
talk about Star like
Bacchan even lord Krishna was
not spared Syamantaka Mani and Shri
Krishna is a story of Krishna getting false blame of being a thief of Syamantak
mani and how he overcame such blame and proved that he was innocent..
As
fire when thrown into water is cooled down and put out, so also a false
accusation when brought against a man of the purest and holiest character,
boils over and is at once dissipated, and vanishes and threats of heaven and
sea, himself standing unmoved. ~Marcus Tullius Cicero
I
found it quite interesting to read the other day, the story of a Zen Master in
Japan, who was falsely accused of impregnating a teenage girl. When the Zen
Master was confronted his response was: “Is that so?” The parents dumped the child
on him, and because of the scandal he lost his reputation. One year later, the
girl confessed the real father was a young boy who worked at a butcher shop.
Completely embarrassed, the family apologized to the Zen Master and took the
child back. His response was: “Is that so?”
This particular Zen
master was equipoised under
all situation but what about common
man like you and me
in
this real world ?Yes ,I agree we cannot easily
attain the state
of Buddist Monk then
what can be done if
it happens to us
? say in your work
place ?or in social
circle? do you ignore? Easy
then said
Coming back to
this real world we have seen
many marriages are ruined ,many friendships have
been destroyed ,many people especially girls have
committed suicide,, Recall
a kannada movie which we
are familiar called
Gali mathu Translated as word in air where
the heroin commits suicide as
she was falsely accused . It
happens if there is no
proper support system either from friends
are your family
members
What can
be done if we are the
victim ?
Here are
the few tips we can
follow if there is false accusation
in work place or
else where in real world
· Say nothing. Of course, this is all
predicated on what the situation is; but for the most part, if someone accuses
you of something, the best thing you can do is say nothing. It seems like strange
advice. But in the moment emotions can run high. If someone has accused you of
something, they are probably already frustrated, upset or even downright angry.
By telling them you are innocent, a point of view which is counter to theirs,
you will most likely only inflame the argument. Now sometimes accusations do
require answers right away; in that case, suggest a change of setting. Calmly
and rationally say to the person that you believe they are mistaken. Offer to
grab lunch or a cup of coffee and to let you explain your side of the story to
them. This will diffuse the momentary tension. Again, do this immediately only
if necessary.
Consider
representation. Now that you've been accused of something, take a moment to
seriously consider if you need council, legal or otherwise. Rembember
how a Australian cricketer won legal battle against
Modi when he was falsely alleged in
Twitter !
.. Do not overlook this step. Certain matters
seem as if they are small, but can quickly get out of control if you are left
fending for yourself and put in the position of having to choose your words
carefully.
· Gather evidence. Since you know you are
innocent, now is the time to gather the evidence that supports your claim. This
will obviously be different in each situation. Think about credit card
receipts, appointments, emails, bank records. Anything that is in written form
which can support your claim will help to eradicate the claims against you.
Gather these items.
Prepare
your argument. Take your evidence and organize it in a way that makes logical
sense to support your claim. If you were accused of cheating on a spouse
or some
one dear to you , start with where you were that night,
show receipts or emails to support your claim in chronological order. As you
shrink the time window of where and who you were with, you will slowly begin to
win the argument. Chronology is the key as your argument must make sense. By
responding in writing you are creating a paper trail that you can use as
evidence. Even if you must write multiple letters over the course of several
months, it will go a long way to establishing the truth of your story.
If
needed Contact the person who made the accusation. If you have legal
council, obviously follow their instructions, as they will most likely not want
you contacting the other party. But if this is a matter that should be
addressed by you face to face, it is time to contact the other party. Schedule
a time where you can meet with them to share your side of the story. Remember,
stay clam and respectful on the phone. Also, do not meet on their turf or in
their office. Suggest someplace neutral like a lunch spot or coffee shop.Explain
your side. Now that you're face to face with the person, address the accusation
they made against you. Remember to keep emotion out of the way. If you've done
your homework properly and have evidence, it should be fairly easy to eradicate
the claim. Lay your evidence out in chronological order. Give them a chance to
respond. Do not expect an apology from them, as it may or may not happen.
Truthfully they may feel completely embarrassed if you were in the right. Also
know that sometimes people need to "agree to disagree." Meaning, if
there is no punitive action that you will suffer from this accusation, and you
cannot convince this person with your evidence of your innocence, then it may
be in everybody's best interest if you just drop it. Is it satisfying? Probably
not. But at the end of the day there are only so many battles one can fight in
life. Move onto something that betters
you or your career and stop wasting time with the bonehead who made false
accusations against you. You have responded to them and if they don't get it,
it's their loss!
Finally
The best apology against false accusers is silence and
sufferance, and honest deeds set against dishonest words” - John Milton
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