Trust

Secrecy is the chastity of friendship.” Jeremy Taylor 

One of the emotional needs of a human being is that of companionship or friendship. A friend is a person with whom you have a strong bond based on love. Two good friends become pillars of support for each other, helping each other, sharing problems , providing sympathy, understanding and affection for each other. They become assets in the each other's lives.

Some  times due  to  many  reasons  we  fail  to  indentify  our  true  friend  and  start confiding  our  innermost  thoughts  to  wrong so  called   friend  and  later on  we  are shocked  and  offended  when stories  are spread throughout the  community  and surprisingly  come  back  to us  with  feathers  and  wings    and  yes as they  say

 “A secret about you  spoken finds wings.” 
― Robert Jordan, The Path of Daggers 

We have no one to blame except ourself as  we recklessly abandoned common sense and carelessly self expose our innermost secrets to wrong person. It  happened  to  me  as  well some times  back   yes .I  did  share  my  inner  most  thoughts  with  so  called  friend  but  to  my  surprise the  news which  i  shared  came  back  to  me  from  many  other  source  with  multiple  versions ! This  incident  really  helped me   understand one  important  lesson  in  life as Great   Chankya says in  his  neeti shastra  
 The biggest guru-mantra is: never share your secrets with  wrong person It will destroy you emotionally 

 Have you noticed that  real and greatest danger does not come from others but surprisingly  it comes from ourselves  and it  is  like  hitting   self  goal ! it is like shooting at our  foot  , that is exactly what we generally  do . When people are careless and fail to guard information about themselves to others who are not trustworthy, they perform acts of self degrading Lashon Harah [Lashon hara literally means “bad talk.” In  hebrew term this means  it is forbidden to speak negatively about someone else, even if it is true &  carrying  tales  and  information from  one  source  to  other  or  to another person, even if it’s true, remains Lashon Harah.]   

 Having  learnt the  lesson,  now  I’m very careful with  whom I  tell & what I tell about myself. Don’t  read  me  wrong  I am not promoting the idea that we should be isolationist or that we should live in a bubble,  but  strongly believe  that  there should be boundaries which should be established based on levels of trust. We need people in our lives that we can trust. .

Tell your friend a lie. If he keeps it secret, then tell him the truth. ~ Portuguese proverb