perfection

 ತರಚುಗಾಯವ ಕೆರೆದು ಹುಣ್ಣನಾಗಿಪುದು ಕಪಿ ।
ಕೊರತೆಯೊಂದನು ನೀನು ನೆನೆನೆನೆದು ಕೆರಳಿ ।।
ಧರೆಯೆಲ್ಲವನು ಶಪಿಸಿ ಮನದಿ ನರಕವ ನಿಲಿಸಿ ।
ನರಳುವುದು ಬದುಕೇನೊ ಮಂಕುತಿಮ್ಮ ।।

A monkey scratches a graze and turns it into a wound.
Worrying yourself to no end over an imperfection,
Cursing everything and making your mind a hell:
Is this misery a life too? –Mankuthimma

 Being  Happy  doesn't  mean  everything  is  perfect  it  means  you  have  decided  to  look  beyond the imperfections 

How often do we get upset because something didn't work out exactly the way we wanted? Even if the result was fairly close, we get upset. Upset usually leads to discontent, which then takes us to to path of unhappiness .We usually equate Imperfect to being  unhappy? Does that sound like a great way to live your life?

We get sucked into the whirl pool  called  perfection for one very simple reason: We believe perfection will protect us. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgment, and shame.

We all need to feel worthy of love and belonging, and our worthiness is on the line when we feel like we are never ___ enough (you can fill in the blank: thin, beautiful, smart, extraordinary, talented, popular, promoted, admired, accomplished). Perfectionism is not the same thing as striving to be our best. ; it's a shield. Perfectionism is  say  20-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it's the thing that's really preventing us from being seen and taking flight.

  We  are Living in a society that floods us with unattainable expectations around every topic imaginable, from how much we should weigh to how many times a day  we should change  our  cloths.., putting down the perfection shield is scary. Finding the courage, compassion and connection to move from "What will people think?" to "I am enough," is not easy.

 “Have no fear of perfection - you'll never reach it.” How  true !!

 A healthy desire for improvements in all areas of life is not necessarily a bad thing.  However, when we become consumed by what we perceive to be flaws or imperfections, we take on an unhealthy approach to the beauty within.  This can eventually steal from our serenity and happiness.  In order to enjoy becoming a better person in life, we need to start with acceptance of the whole picture as it is.  When we choose to be happy with who we are today, with the good and the bad, we embrace the life we have chosen.  When we choose to be happy, looking beyond our imperfections, we empower ourselves to increase our potential for greatness in life.

 The empowering energy that is in you and that surrounds you allows you to attract more of the same. It has a different vibration, one that is illuminating and inspiring.  We are all looking for progress not perfection in life anyway, so don’t get bogged down.  Just choose to be happy in spite of it all, embrace the blessings and keep moving forward!

After looking closely and  experiencing  varied  emotions like Happiness ,sadness , vulnerability, shame, and authenticity for the past  three decades, one  lesson  I've learned. Is that  not  to  go  after  this  mirage  called perfection but  to accept things as they are, and accept the world as it is. What you receive from life and nature is the ultimate. . Once you understand this fact, you can find happiness everywhere and anywhere in this imperfect world

What  I  feel is  we  should  seek for  Excellence instead  of Perfection as going   after  perfection , its like    aiming  at  pot of  Gold at  the  end of Proverbial  Rainbow which is  always Elusive. Realistically, if we take a step back and truly ascertain what we are trying to achieve, the end result would be excellence.  Perfection may present itself on test scores, but the culmination of our efforts in life will never be the absolute perfection that we seek. But  Excellence

Observe yourself that  Excellence  allows for incremental improvements. This ability does not exist when you focus on perfection. Even though when you try to achieve perfection you will inevitably make incremental improvements, you will never take advantage of them because of your pursuit of the perfect solution. Until you find that solution, you will consider the endeavor a failure   don’t  you  think so  ?

. Stop being a perfectionist.  Nothing in life is perfect.  Why should you expect to be?  It's great to strive for perfection, but when you demand it with such consistency that your world comes crashing down around you because it's not possible, where will you stand?  You can be much happier accepting minor imperfection.  . I suspect the secret of personal attraction is locked up in our unique imperfections, flaws and frailties

“Le mieux est l'ennemi du bien. (The perfect is the enemy of the good.)”

Voltier