urgent vs Important

What is important is seldom urgent, and what is urgent is seldom important.
– Dwight D. Eisenhower

A good friend once told me of a fond memory from his  childhood. Every Sunday morning, his entire family would get ready to  visit  market  . Everyone would be rushing to get dressed and have breakfast; the whole household would be in complete disarray. When his grandmother saw this, she would say: "Let's slow down so we can get there faster."

This may sound like a paradox, but is in fact great wisdom. Our problem in the modern world is usually going too fast, so slowing down brings us back to moderation. We need to keep this in mind because life seems to be full of due dates, deadlines, and tasks that are "urgent" but not necessarily important. These things become stress factors and build up tension. We force ourselves through them, thinking we are "productive" while unable to see the hairline fractures that are spreading through the wheel of life. At some point, things start falling apart, and we wonder where  we  went wrong .

 How can we know the right speed with which to proceed? There is no magic formula. The only way to discover the natural rhythm and pace is through experience. By living life with awareness, and knowing the  difference  between “ urgent’’ & “important”. .once  when  we  know  this then  we   can  fine  tune the  appropriate speed  and  move  ahead in any given situation. I feel  No one can teach it to you; it is something you need to learn on your own but the  key  point is not  to unnecessary get tensed up and  in  the  bargain loose  the  focus  on  main point .

A lot of us confuse between the urgent and the important and in  fact it  is really  difficult to  know  the  difference .Even people who have been in management roles for years and years in large corporate sometimes succumb to this disease in their professional or personal fronts. Understanding the difference between urgent and important can make a huge impact on the quality and productivity of both your personal and professional life   and of  course What you consider important can differ from what others consider as important.

you deserve the best

There is a parable about a poor man walking through the woods reflecting upon his many troubles. He stopped to rest against a tree, a magical tree that would instantly grant the wishes of anyone who came in contact with it. He realized he was thirsty and wished for a drink. Instantly a cup of cool water was in his hand. Shocked, he looked at the water, he decided it was safe and drank it. He then realized he was hungry and wished he had something to eat. A meal appeared before him. "My wishes are being granted," he thought in disbelief. "Well, then I wish for a beautiful home of my own," he said out loud. The home appeared in the meadow before him. A huge smile crossed his face as he wished for servants to take care of the house. When they appeared he realized he had somehow been blessed with an incredible power and he wished for a beautiful, loving, intelligent woman to share his good fortune. "Wait a minute, this is ridiculous," said the man to the woman. "I'm not this lucky. This can't happen to me  &  I don’t deserve this ." As he spoke...everything disappeared. He shook his head and said, "I knew it  I knew  it I  don’t  deserve this  ," then walked away thinking about his many troubles.

What's sadly true is that so many people believe they don't deserve  best things  in  life  when in  fact    wishing  tree in our   life   is very  much  ready  to  give  us  but   we continue  to  ignore and  we derive  happiness    out  of  chasing  and  dreaming and we are  convinced that  this  may  not be  real .

 The  Best and  deserving  thing  may be  different  for different  people  be  it  money for  some , or a great job, or a fabulous home, or a trim fit body or tons of energy and wonderful health.  The negative ego is great at convincing us that we don't deserve certain things, and then shows us proof - not really but it looks like proof.  What you might not realize is that the negative ego is what has created a life that looks like you don't deserve.

  My line of  argument  is  we get what we think about, whether we want it or not  and  why  not  try for  the  best and there  is good  chance for  you  to  be  there where  you  want . Wayne Dyer  one  of  my favorite  author who  has written  book  called  your ‘’ Erroneous  zone ‘’ writes in his new book "Excuses Begone," "I Don't Deserve" is an excuse.  He says it comes from the lack of self-esteem.  Makes sense doesn't it?  If you don't have self-esteem, you don't feel like you deserve to have love, money, health, etc  he  says you  desesrve  the  best  things , Instead  of  asking  I  don’t  deserve   why  not  ask  why  not  ME   . 

Dr. Dyer  further writes   "This excuse (I Don't Deserve) is based on a belief in the validity of your unworthiness.  It's as if a part of you wants to protect you from (what's assumed to be) the unbearable pain of feeling that maybe they're right, and I don't deserve it.  If you ask that part of you why it's doing this, it will have good reasons. But those reasons are, in effect, lies, and functioning by their edict means that you're living a lie.  You don't earn worthiness - you're equally as deserving of all that this glorious world offers as anyone else is."