People and circumstances change...accept it. You can only change what is in your power, what you have no control over...let it be...let it go...
-subashita-
We create and maintain problems by living in past because they give us a sense of identity. Perhaps this explains why we often hold onto our pain far beyond its ability to serve us.
Often we replay our past mistakes, outdated relationship , regrets ,Failure , ,frustrations ,over and over again in our head, allowing feelings of shame and regret which in turn shape our actions in the present. We cling to frustration and worry about the future, as if the act of fixation somehow gives us power. We hold stress in our minds and bodies, potentially creating serious health issues, and accept that state of tension as the norm.
Though it may sound simple, Gautama Buddha ’s advice speaks volumes:
“If you let go a little, you will have a little peace. If you let go a lot, you will have a lot of peace.”
Being receptive and allowing things to happen is a skill that can be practiced and improved upon. It helps to believe in a friendly universe—one that is supporting you at every turn so that you don’t have to worry yourself over the details.
. We often become attached to a person, an idea, a situation, whatever it may be , then suddenly things change and we receive the advice from our friends and family that we have to “let it go”. So what do we do? We fight with ourselves to let it go. We convince ourselves that we need to detach and this inevitably leads to discontent, dissatisfaction in our hearts which leads us to path of unhappiness. However, we may all talk but to practice it is quite difficult
.Like everyone else even I have also gone through this Phase of not letting go things , but gradually over a period of time imbibed the philosophy of LET IT GO by understanding the relationship between Detachment & Freedom
. I was in my 20s, trying to recover some equilibrium in the midst of a difficult situation I was passing through , One morning I tuned in the local radio station which happened to be broadcasting Chintana a programme in kannada where Every day a well known personality in society talks on various topics for 15 minutes
on that day a respected swamji from Ramakrishna mutt was speaking on detachment and freedom. He was mentioning about a famous anecdote the way they used to catch monkey in Northern India. It seems that they used to drop a handful of nuts into a jar with a small opening. The monkey puts his hand into the jar, grabs the nuts, and then finds that he can't get his fist out through the opening. If the monkey would just let go of the nuts, he could escape, but he won't. He went on to draw parallel between this and us human being where we are attached and catch the nuts ,thereby slipping into past life by not pulling out our hand ,If only we determine to let go our hand from the Jar . and get our self detached which made sense .!!Attachment leads to suffering, Swamji said ,. It's as simple as that: Detachment leads to freedom.
Let it Go he concluded .
I felt he was talking directly to me. yes, I was attached too much to the past .—and as a result definitely was suffering, letting go of my fistful of nuts seemed unthinkable. I couldn't imagine what life would be without these past nuts like- outdated relationship, worry, resentment, judgment etc. Still, the story of the monkey and the jar stayed with me, a depth charge waiting to go off. Finally this principle of letting Go started sinking into my system and slowly started leaving the nuts in the Jar and pulling my hand out . LET IT GO ...Lesson Learnt !!
A year later, I had become a sort of fledgling yogi. I no longer hung around with people who would listen to my latest troubles. Instead, my time was spent with people whose answer to any expression of discontentment was, "Let it go. To large extent I managed to get rid of the worry, the resentment, and the tendency to brood over past event . In short, I have started simply moving from one behavioral pole to the other, that is getting attached and living in past to following the policy of and living in present ..LET IT GO ..let nuts remain in Jar !!!
When the past calls ,let it Go to Voice mail .
It has Nothing New to Say ..
